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Regulating Emotions: How a Simple Pause Changed My Life anger emotional regulation mindfulness pause Jun 01, 2024

I remember clearly when I first learned how to sit with my strong emotions. I had gotten really, really angry with someone in my family (truthfully, it was my husband!), and I desperately wanted to yell at him. However, I knew from experience that this wouldn’t make me feel better; it would...

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Take Control of YOUR Stress: A Simple Approach for lasting well-being May 03, 2024

How often do you find yourself battling stress throughout the week? Is it a fleeting feeling or a constant companion? More importantly, do you know where stress resides within your body?

I always ask my students these questions, and their answers consistently reveal just how prevalent stress is...

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Have you ever said “May I be kind to myself?” mindfulness self compassion Mar 28, 2024

As I've immersed myself in teaching self-compassion this month, I've found myself reflecting deeply on what this practice truly means to me. It's more than just a lesson or a technique; it's a profound shift in perspective that has changed my life in ways I never imagined.

Self-compassion has...

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Ugh, I’m so tired.... rest Feb 28, 2024

Have you been feeling exhausted lately, constantly saying, "Ugh, I’m so tired these days"? 

Have you found yourself hitting the hay earlier and sneaking in a few naps this month?

No? You're not alone.

Around 3 out of 5 U.S. adults admit to feeling more tired than ever before*, and...

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Beginner's Mind: Rediscover the Joy of Everyday Life Jan 28, 2024

“If your mind is empty, it is always ready for anything; it is open to everything. In the beginner’s mind, there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind, there are few.” Shunryu Suzuki,

As we start the New Year, I'm trying to cultivate more of a beginner's...

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Embracing Rest: Pausing in the In-Between creativity holiday stress mindfulness produtivity rest Dec 27, 2023

I Almost Didn't Write This...

As I am in resting mode during this week between Christmas and New Year. In the past, I'd fill this time with plans – shows, museum visits, and social gatherings. However, over the years, I've discovered the benefits of deep rest during this period. It's become...

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Navigating the Holiday Season with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion gratitude holiday stress mindfulness resilience self compassion Nov 25, 2023

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrated. I hope you had a great time!

For those who didn’t, nor did I this year, and this email is for you.

I spent the whole Thanksgiving week in bed this year, sick with stomach flu. And I know I'm not the only one who has had a challenging holiday. Often...

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A way to send goodness into the world right now Oct 19, 2023

I am writing this after a week of hearing about terrible tragedy developing in the Middle East. My heart has been breaking for all the people involved, mothers, fathers, children, and all who have been affected.

I have been asking myself, What can I DO to alleviate the suffering? 

I can see...

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How to find equanimity ( balance) using mindfulness Sep 29, 2023

  It’s time for a confession…I am not a naturally balanced person

This month I have not felt in balance even though I’ve been teaching about it.

I have felt overwhelmed with all the back-to-school tasks and, that I have too much to do and too little time.

AND I have also...

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I have a few facts to share about stress…. Sep 13, 2023
 
  1. We are ALL stressed out right now - a recent report said that 94%* of workers report feeling stressed at work (who are the missing 6%?)

  2. We can’t STOP stressors in our life, sorry I wish we could!

  3. We can MANAGE our stress response

Here’s how it works:

We evolved...

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Have you heard of Emotional Intelligence? Sep 13, 2023
Have a listen to the practice of RAIN - Recognize, Allow, Investigate and Nurture, a key mindfulness practice for developing emotional intelligence skills. 
 
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions. People with high EI usually have...
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Dealing with Uncertainty - The comfort of RIGHT NOW. Aug 24, 2023

I was teaching someone 1-1 this week who is experiencing some chronic health issues and wondering if she will ever feel better. Such a challenging place to be! It is so challenging to sit with uncertainty and yet it's part of the human condition. After all, we all want control of our lives but we...

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