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From Barely Holding It Together to 7.5/10 Calm in Two Weeks anxiety emotional regulation mindfulness negative thinking negative traits of the mind pause stress management Mar 08, 2026

Two weeks. That’s all it took for M to go from barely holding it together to feeling like herself again.

When I asked her how calm and emotionally regulated she felt before my mindfulness retreat, she said she was at a 3 out of 10.

A 3.

She left the retreat at a 6. Already a massive shift. But he...

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When Showing Up and Accepting Works: The Retreat with Firemen, Leaks, and Zero Panic acceptance emotional regulation leadership retreats Feb 24, 2026

As a retreat leader, when the manager tells you that sparks are coming out of the ceiling and she’s calling 911… how would you feel?

Here’s the thing about my meditation practice - it’s what people always see when they’re on retreat with me.  Ceiling leaks? I don’t panic. That’s what people notice ...

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Becoming the Pause in a World That Wants Your Anger anger anxiety boundaries emotional regulation pause resilience rest stress management Jan 19, 2026

 

January 2026 Reflections

When I returned to work after the holidays this January, I felt roiled. That’s the only word that truly fits.

The news has felt relentless. Stories out of Iran stirred grief and helplessness. Reports from Venezuela and Greenland added to the weight. And then the scenes ...

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Unlocking the Power of Your Nervous System Through Mindfulness anxiety autoimmune disease emotional regulation healing nervous system healing stress management Jan 08, 2025

One of my key focuses this year is exploring the profound healing nature of mindfulness. There’s a reason I named my business “Find That Pause – because taking a moment to observe your inner world is the first step in regulating your nervous system, and that is essential for overall well-being.

In ...

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We Can’t Stop the Waves, But We Can Learn to Surf emotional regulation resilience self compassion stress management Nov 04, 2024

As election week begins, I’ve been reflecting on what originally drew me to mindfulness. Like many of my students, I turned to it during a time of anxiety and overwhelm. I hoped mindfulness would help me “clear my mind” to escape constant worry and rumination. Instead, it taught me to gently welcome...

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Regulating Emotions: How a Simple Pause Changed My Life anger emotional regulation mindfulness pause Jun 01, 2024

I remember clearly when I first learned how to sit with my strong emotions. I had gotten really, really angry with someone in my family (truthfully, it was my husband!), and I desperately wanted to yell at him. However, I knew from experience that this wouldn’t make me feel better; it would make me ...

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